The ‘Twin Flame’/’Twin Soul’ experience is so very difficult to understand, let alone try to explain. People assume you’re talking about a ‘soul mate,’ you’re waxing overly romantic about someone, you’re ‘head over heels,’ etc. My own TF experience was intense, compelling, and the most mystifying connection imaginable. It wasn’t remotely like any other meeting you might have with someone, or a connection shimmering with a little ‘energy’ that you feel inspired to look into a bit more. For me this was a spontaneous soul meld that threw me for a loop. I couldn’t be casual about it; I had to go deeper. And deeper. And deeper still. One has to be intrepid to explore this depth of connection. No two ways about it.
Eventually, though, it was necessary to let go of the whole thing. After years of exasperating entanglement I had to face the reality that the whole ordeal was causing more pain than the mutual healing that I originally “knew” we had met to accomplish. It all just became unbearable to perpetuate. We did not attain the state of grace we could have, if *whatever* had been *different.* But it was what it was, and ultimately it wasn’t pretty.
Today I look back and just can’t believe what went on during that strange period. I now refer to it as my “so-called twin flame” experience. I know what this connection “should” be – wide-open fearless love, which the ego is typically too terrified to allow. I was in an exalted space of divine love. I was also in a state of awakened kundalini, which can be a lonely condition when you’re swimming in divine bliss and the Other is in mundane, habitual ego.
Maybe Lissa Rankin’s piece about her TF relationship will help illuminate this connection that fits no known container. It’s not what so many expect or fantasize it to be! This just cannot be compared with anything that came before it, in terms of human relationships. This is a foreign relational universe. It’s where souls merge (or where two parts of one greater soul merge), if squirmy little human egos can just let them. I delve much more into this subject in my upcoming book. Meanwhile I’m happy to post the following from Lissa Rankin.
By Lissa Rankin MD
I haven’t written much about it publicly because it’s been so intense and confusing and extraordinary, but for almost a year, I have been involved in what others describe to me as a “twin flame” or “soul twin” relationship. Dennis and I are not a “couple” in any traditional sense of the word. He’s a gay man. I’m a straight woman. Both of us have recently experienced divorces from our partners, so we are technically “single,” but a number of factors keep us from getting involved in a typical romantic relationship.
And yet, we are both learning more about love than either of us ever had in our other conventional relationships.