Last week, as I was responding to responses to the Kundalini Not a Game post, I came upon a sad little piece of verse (below). Wondering where it came from, I googled it; but rather than finding a source, I found repeated uses of it all over the web, which was interesting. Perhaps it’s song lyrics.
A theme that was ‘up’ that day was how reticent we are to be open with others when we are in pain. In our culture, it is generally not ok to share real pain, or fear. We feel shamed by our pain, as though we are failures for having it. It is *quite* typical to gripe and complain about things that get to us: the job, the relationship, etc. But going into the deeper layers, what tends to happen is, those acute issues just keep burrowing deeper IN, rather than reaching out for guidance, support, or whatever is begging to be done, by that pain/fear.
It’s interesting that once this topic came up, this little poem “came in,” and then various other voices began appearing, and I realized… pain and fear are everywhere on the internet, which is merely physical evidence of the state of the global brain/mind/soul. Anyway, this is the little piece for which I could find no source:
She says she’s fine,
but she’s going insane.
She says she feels good,
but she’s in a lot of pain.
She says it’s nothing,
but it’s really a lot.
She says she’s okay,
but really she’s not.
This touched me. No one wants to be bothered by anyone else’s problems, or at least so we believe. Isn’t life hard enough without someone else’s burdens, after all?
So this morning, again I got connected to the pain theme, and this time it came with a resource that I thought I’d share (as I do like being helpful). There’s a free ebook version of a published book called Meeting the Dragon: Ending Our Suffering by Entering Our Pain, by Robert Masters, PhD. It just went online a few weeks ago. Masters has several books that have roused my interest, which you can see and determine for yourself if you look into it.
Masters distinguishes between pain and suffering (pain is inevitable; suffering is largely voluntary); he addresses the common reaction to pain being to get away from it, and why entering it is actually a more effective course of action for getting through it. He also explains the difference between compassionately holding pain vs. fusing with it.
I’ve only scanned this book, but felt it worth sharing in case you find it of service, especially since the cost is in “click,” not “coin.” Here’s his website; the free download is on his Store page. Pain is an interpretation of energy. Working with pain towards healing navigates one toward wholeness. Fighting with pain, agonizing over circumstances, tends to create further breakage.
I send compassionate blessings and love to all the pain(ed) in the world…